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8 Secrets to Create the Life You LoveYou are the Artist of Your Life - 6 Secrets to Live the Life you Love with Katherine Skaggs author artist

Can you imagine that you are the ARTIST of YOUR LIFE? … the Architect? the Author, the Writer, and the Editor of your life’s play? And as the CREATOR of your life, you actually have artistic license to create it as you desire. That is right! You DO NOT have to follow anyone else’s rules, directions, or demands. You are free to create the life you love as you want. You can color inside, or outside of the lines of what is offered you. You can copy life, or you can create it entirely new without reference to what has existed before. 

The greater question is, are you consciously, intentionally creating your life? Or are you doing what you believe is required to pay the bills, to do your job, to be in a relationship, or not, and so on and so forth? Are you happy? Are you expanding and living the adventure you hoped? Or are you struggling? 

And, one thing you must know is that as you are focused on and curious about your life you desire to live with all your heart, the Universe, the Quantum Field, will conspire to help you get what you want. Whether you believe in metaphysics, quantum mechanics/physics, or Divine guidance, I can tell you that the Universe has your back. The important thing you must know is that you must find ways to give your attention and focus on your desires and NOT your fears. That is the vibrational clue to getting what you want. 

If this story moves you even a little bit keep reading what I have discovered over the years about how Creation of anything in your life works. You do have the ability for great transformation and change when you are ready and willing. The Universe has laws that support everyone in making their life what they want it to be. If you are in suffering, feel stuck, or limited in any way, you have subconscious beliefs and blocks that are born of trauma, fear, or fright. They are imprints that come from messages from your parents, your teachers, and society typically. They may be direct experiences from people you know or don’t know. Wherever you had the experience doesn’t matter. All that matters is that you have the tools to shift out of that experience into a new one. It is possible. I did. And if I have done this so can you!

1 - Stop - Be Still

Before you can create something new, it is important to stop and still yourself. In shamanism this is referred to as going into the great void of possibility. This is the first step of stopping the madness. This is a time to go within. Imagine this void as a place of great energy, possibility, and even chaos. If you have been going and going it is likely you need to stop and rest before you try to begin anything new. This is the place of the North in the medicine wheel, the place of the night, and the place of winter. This is the place where we dream anew. You may also call this the subconscious mind. 

To make change it is important we get out of our conscious, thinking mind. Settling into the stillness of nature in winter, or the dark of night is a doorway to the mystery of life. This is the place where our dreams live, and also the place where we may have stored away fear patterns that hold us captive in an unhappy, unconscious life.

When you are ready to dream a new life into being, step away from the linear reality that is causing you pain. Take a break. Retreat into nature on a mindfulness walk. Breathe in the beauty of nature no matter her season. Step away from the people, the places, and the things where life is out of order. Find a time and space where you can reflect, journal, and be still. Let go of all doing. What is it like to just be? 

Drink a calming cup of tea. Light a candle. Burn a fire and gaze into its flames. Take a nap. What do you need to go within to your private inner spaces? Allow your imaginations and dreams of a better life arise. Watch them. Notice how you feel. Release any emotion that may want to flow. Invite in the guidance that is ready to drop into your awareness now. Rest. Restore yourself to the peace that is awaiting you.

2 - Observation and Honesty 

Step back and take an honest look at the canvas of your life. 

Once you have rested, set aside a time to look at your life with great honesty, observation, and objectivity. Not better or worse than what it is. 

Get real. Are you happy? How do you feel when you think about your job? Do you feel excited or do you feel drained? Are you living for a paycheck? How do you feel when you think about the people in your life? Do you want to leave the one you married but are afraid of the chaos and change? Do you enjoy your closest friends, or do they disturb you with their gossip and how they treat you? How is your health? 

Getting honest is just the beginning. If you have been putting up with people, situations, and your work, most likely you are exhausted, depressed, and not having such a great time of it all. Are you ‘bucking’ up? Do you have the motto “no pain, no gain.” You can work hard and still have a great time if only you are aligned with what you do as work, or aligned with the people around you. 

It is time to take a personal inventory of every area of your life. This gives way to the path of what you can do differently. When you begin to imagine something different you will get the support needed to change your world. 

One day at art school I was in painting class with my teacher Wilbur Niewald. He was an amazing Cezanne-like oil painter with fierce observation skills. He came up to me and the still-life oil painting I had probably been working on for 100 hours. The painting was just beginning to ‘pop’ - meaning look good! As he looked over my shoulder at the still life and the painting, he began to show me how to make the painting better. He picked up one of my brushes and dabbed it into some blue paint and proceeded to correct the painting, “Your composition will be much better if you move the still life up about an inch and a half.” Then he began to sketch into my painting where things should be moved to. I cringed with some expletives in mind, and thought, “OMG. I am going to basically begin all over on top of what I have worked on for hours and hours.” 

Though I didn’t like what he had to tell me, he was my honest, objective point of view that was guiding me to creating a more beautiful expression in this painting. I didn’t want to hear it as I knew it meant more work to get what I wanted. I had an emotional response too, feeling a bit of defeat and limitation. Yet, it was exactly the reflection and guidance I needed to create change. 

What will you do if you notice your life is an inch and a half off? Are you willing to change? Are you curious how much better it might be if you dive in and refocus? Can you imagine a better outcome?

3 -Curiosity, Imagination, and Synchronicity 

What if and Why not?

Curiosity is a key component to creating anything you desire. What adventures are you curious about living in your life? Are you curious about a better life? Have you begun to imagine what it is like to be in a different job, to be an entrepreneur, to leave your relationship, to get into a relationship, to have more money, etc? Or are you curious about how hard it is going to be? Are you defeated before you begin?  Wherever your focus lies in your curiosity is the direction you are headed. What do you really want to create?

I remember a time in my mid-20s when I was unhappy, struggling with anxiety, working a dead-end job that really wasn’t what I hoped for or wanted. I already had a degree from college, following a path to work in the ‘real world’ with a regular paycheck rather than follow my heart’s desires. I had always been a good artist, perhaps great in the eyes of some. Yet when it came to going on to getting a college degree and finding a job I was told, “You are a great artist, however, what are you REALLY going to do when you go to work?” In other words, the message was you can’t make a living being an artist. You aren’t valuable. You aren’t worthy. And of course, you are going to struggle because that isn’t a REAL job.”

Though I had graduated with a B.S. in my early 20s, I was doing something entirely different than my degree hoping to do more of my art. I was in advertising and I was miserable. I recall talking to my boyfriend at age 25 and said, “I would just love to go to art school for one year.” He said something that turned out to be very profound i moving toward my true desires.  “Why not?” he said. And instead of thinking of all the reasons not to go, I began to get curious as to how to go. I began to explore schools, their admissions policies, costs, grants and loans, and how to photograph and submit my portfolio. With that research I decided upon Kansas City Art Institute and submitted a portfolio. I was immediately accepted! Within 18 months I moved and began a three year adventure to getting my BFA in art and painting. 

Quantum physics proves what metaphysicians, mystics, and shamans have taught for eons. Whatever you are curious about, whatever your focus is on, is what you create. Specifically, when you focus your curiosity on something, the quantum field must answer. If you ask, “What if and how can I go to art school?” and begin to focus on this, give your attention to this and how amazing it might be, the Universe conspires to help you make it so. With your attention and curiosity you begin to stir the quantum field. On the other hand if you are curious about how hard it will be to get to school, you will stir the fear and all the reasons you can’t get what you want. Your limiting thoughts and feelings will create through the fear, rather than through the vibration of something better. 

4 - Willingness for Change - Face the Fear

With honesty and curiosity to create something new you’ll realize you have to face your fears and have willingness to make the changes required 

How willing are you to begin the process of redesigning your life? Are you willing to refocus - no matter the effort in living in greater joy, harmony, abundance, and happiness? Are you willing to ask for help? Are you willing to face the fear that has kept  you trapped?

I recall the fear and frustration I had in knowing I was going to basically repaint an entire painting because the composition needed shifting upward just an inch and a half. Sitting in the art studio with my teacher looking over my shoulder was daunting. I felt sick to my stomach. All sorts of thoughts ran through my head that were born of frustration, a bit of defeat, and wondering if I would actually make it worse rather than better. After a short while I began to refocus past the frustration and fear of screwing it up. I began to repaint the composition, redefine the color, and shift everything up an inch and a half as directed by my teacher. 

Life is a series of of choices and actions. Whatever we create, whether it be a canvas with paint, a sculpture, a book, a job, a relationship, or our own bodies is ultimately an experimental process. Fear is at the core of stopping us from writing the book we want to write, losing weight, getting the job we want, and ultimately taking the risk of a better life no matter what it might be. 

Mastery in any area of life requires the willingness to do what it takes to get what we want. When we set forth in love and excitement rather than fear, the journey is one of fulfillment of your true heart’s desires. The effort is well worth it and part of the reward.

5 - Sacred Destruction - Path to Freedom

Let Go of What Was to Create Anew

Katherine Skaggs Dakini Kundalini Mama
Dakini Kundalini Mama

Any great artist, writer, actor, architect, or director learns to let go in the process of creating their masterpiece. It is a grand experiment and adventure to create a great piece of art or a fabulous book. There’s always the process of editing, correcting, and refocusing. 

All acts of creativity are also acts of destruction. Birth is connected to death and death is connected to birth. When I paint is applied to a canvas, the blank canvas is changed to something else. It no longer exists so a painting can be born.

SACRED destruction is the process of intentionally letting go, alchemizing what was, making it sacred or an important part of creating the new life. Rather than destroy all of an old job or old relationship, it is a spiritual practice to clear out the things that were difficult, and yet find the gold within the experience. The experience is here to teach you about alchemy, wisdom, and mastery in your life. 

Let Go and Alchemize the Fear

Notice how you feel as I speak to fear. What does your body tell you when you think of moving out of your current situation into something you desire more? Do you feel exhilarated at the possibilities of your new life? Or do you have a stomach ache, feel anxiety, grief, or other pain? 

Hawaiian Goddess Pele is a great example of the power of Sacred Destruction and Creation that we can all learn from. Pele, being the Mother Goddess of Volcanoes and Lightening awakens and brings her lava flows when man has disrespected the land. Her fire and lava flow across the land burning away the impurities of man’s unconsciousness. In the process her lava flows give birth to new life as a new island. This great mother teaches us to use the power of fire to burn away the impurities in our lives so we can enjoy new life. 

Mother Nature is constant in her teachings about flow, cycles, and seasons of creation. We can apply her wisdom to our own lives to move out of stagnation, depression, lack, and unhappiness. Once we have become willing we can begin to burn away, to let go, and to correct our course to a more beautiful landscape, within and all around. 

Whatever change you are embarking on requires a time to release and let go so you can move into a new you and a new life. There are many ways you can approach your shift. I like to add ritual and ceremony to my journey of release, whether it be a fire ceremony or painting over an old painting. Both are physical acts to help me move the mental and emotional energy beyond the limited or old life experiences. 

Make a safe and sacred space to explore letting go. Set an intention that is clear for what you desire to release and what you desire to bring in. Burn sage or other herbs and incenses to clear out old dense energies. Turn off your electronic devices. Tell others to leave you alone for the period of time you need for your ceremonies. Light a candle, and/or set an altar to hold your prayers and focus. 

When I am ready for change I love both fire ceremony AND going into the studio to abstractly paint over an old canvas with the intention to release, as well as to bring in the healing and shift needed for me to move forward in my life. 

Fire Ceremony Alchemy Exercise

Before going to the fire - Set some time aside to reflect and dump out your thoughts and emotions onto paper if you like. With intention, release your negative thoughts, anger, frustrations, resentments, blames, hurts, etc. onto paper. I recommend writing and bringing that through your hands rather than on your computer. Be as physical with it as possible. Your body needs the release as much as your mind. Use color, symbol, pictures, and story to tell the old story you no longer want to imprison your life. The release in such a manner is cathartic in and of itself. Also, gather any organic items that represent the pain of the past, or the limitations that have held you stagnant. If you are letting go of a job, it may be related paperwork or contracts that have held you. If it is a relationship you are releasing it may be cards, letters, and photographs you want to let go of that hold past promises that can no longer come to fruition. Whatever you gather take it to the fire. 

Throw everything into the fire with conviction of letting the past go in all forms. Speak out loud what you are letting go as you desire. Then acknowledge it is done. This is an important piece of completion that sets you free. Be done with it. No more. And so it is. 

Then stand close enough to the fire to feel its heat. The fire energy purifies your auric field of dense energies. In the process it raises your vibration and fills you with chi, prana, life force. This fortifies you for your next steps to create your desires.

In the Studio - Intentional Release with Painting and Creativity

Use a canvas that is either new or old and art supplies that you are not attached to. Your supplies are completely up to you. Focus your intention to let go of the old energy, the negative thoughts, and emotions through the paint, brushes, hands, and tools onto canvas. This is a very physical, somatic experience beyond your intellect. FEEL into the energy of the limited life experiences. Anger, rage, sadness, and any emotions that are connected to the old life all want to come out of you into the paint and onto the canvas. Let go with all the veracity and emotion possible. 

As you release notice the shifts you will begin to experience that free you. You should begin to feel lighter and more free. Keep going until you feel the shift. I literally went into a trance the first times I let go with great emotion. I became very calm after I released betrayal, rage, and fright. Naturally I began to bring in a new vision, clarity of message and imagery, that was my freedom.

Once you feel done with the releasing, shift into painting your healing, your healing, your new energy. Be open to the flow of love, of healing, and new direction to come into the canvas in color, symbol, and messages that you not only see but feel. You may well open up your psychic senses as a result of this exercise. So pay attention to the messages. If they are born of love they are from your higher self. 

6. Focus

Once you let go of the old story and fear that keeps you stuck, you will be able to focus on what you truly desire. Your focus, along with your mental, emotional, and physical energy and actions will direct your life. Whether you want to shift the composition and color of a painting, or you want to leave a relationship, you must be able to focus toward what you desire rather than what you fear.

Use your art, writing, imagination, and curiosity to lean toward what you want to experience in your life. If you still have doubt, depression, or hopelessness, go back to the releasing exercise with sacred destruction to get clear before you move forward. Clearing the fear is essential to getting to a place of moving forward. Taking action toward your true heart’s desires won’t work if you are still harboring fear and limiting beliefs. If you keep doing your best to move forward and are repeating the old patterns, step back in the step by step process until you begin to feel free and safe in your body, emotions, and thought process.

In mystery school in my 20s I came to understand a universal law and truth about focus. It goes something like this: Whatever you focus on expands. This seemingly simple truth is not always easy to act out, yet it is important we learn to do so. 

Notice where you are focused. Turn off the bad news, walk away from negative conversations and nay sayers. Find supportive friends and loved ones. Create an environment in your life where you are more and more easily focused in the power of positivity and potentiation. If you want change yet life in a negative environment you will be like a fish swimming up stream. Toxic energy will sabotage your movement forward, cause stagnation in your growth, and not only slow you down but most likely stop you all together. 

When you imagine your new life, what does it look like and feel like? Who surrounds you and cheers you on? If you can’t think of any one person, then work with reference points of people you know who have good support systems. How does it feel when you think of them and their relationships? Study the energy of their relations and then see what it feels like when you imagine them. Take a walk in nature and feel into the peace and harmony. Winter has one feel. Often quiet and more still. Spring another feel, with new life, birds chirping, and green coming out. What are the sensations in your body that bring peace when you move into environments that are harmonious. Let them be your guide to focus into peace, harmony, and joy. As you notice these sensations they will give way to restoration of your own inner peace. From this place you can focus and choose more harmoniously the life you desire.

Synchronicity - When you begin to focus on your true desires the Universe will send you the support needed to create change. Synchronicity, coincidences, signs, symbols, and messages will begin to appear before you. You may have a dream that reveals something that is important in your journey to new life. Something will stream across your devices with a message that is profound and important. A friend will start a conversation focused exactly on what you need to know. Suffice it to say if you have become curious and focused toward what you want to live, the world will begin to give you the breadcrumbs and clues you need to follow.

7 - Protect Your Dreams

As you imagine and begin to seed new life it is important to protect your dreams. Imagine how an embryo in a womb, or a newborn infant needs nurturance and protection from harmful elements, your dreams too need protection, nurturance, and support. Share your hopes and dreams with those who love and respect you. Avoid the nay sayers and negative nellies. Anyone and anything toxic can down play your potential, playing into old fears and doubts. There are times to keep things to yourself and only the most trusted individuals. There is a time to announce your new life to the world. Be discerning of who to share with, and when to share. Avoid the need for approval from people who may never ever approve of your choices. Your dreams of a new life are precious and need you to be a fierce, loving, and protective parent. Weed out your doubts and fears as you dream anew. Weed out the people and environments that carry those same doubts and fears along the way. You will be happy that you did.

8 - Effortless Action - Teachings of the Jaguar

Deep in the jungles of South America you will find the black puma and the black jaguars who come to sit at the waters edge at night in the darkness. They avoid detection of all around. These big cats never chase their prey. Instead, they align with where their prey will come to drink or eat. In the darkness they sit without lifting a paw or tensing a muscle. They sit in observation and watch until what they desire is before them. At just the right time they will pounce upon their prey and get what they want without any seeming effort at all.

This teaching is an integral teaching about alignment, rest, and effortlessness. As you dream a new reality you will indeed have work to do to create what you want. And, as you relax and let go of the fear that holds you back, you will be more aligned with effortless action. Pay attention to what is before you. Is it in alignment? Does it feel good? If it doesn’t, most likely you are not at the right watering hold where your desires exist. Follow the plan here and you will indeed be more and more in the place where life gives you what you enjoy and what you desire.

Love, wisdom, and teachings with Katherine Skaggs

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